Life- Never Give it Up

 "I no more want to live " were the words, and the conversation of the two protagonist of the chronicle feathered by "Ved Vyasa" took pace. It was a war scenario with the sun having set a few moments ago. The speaker was the great archer and my most favorite hero of history- Arjun and the listener was God himself - Lord Krishna, the charioteer of Arjun. Arjun had been defeated by one of his firmest rivals- Karna. His pride had been shattered, and so he wished to end life. But Lord Krishna persuaded him to live, using his skills of elucidation. Had Arjun committed suicide then, the war of Mahabharata would have ended up in a different manner. And that's where lies the importance of individual being. How Krishna persuaded Arjun is not a matter to put light on at this point of time.
 But what tends to be highlighted here, is that each person has a role in life. And if he wishes to die before his pre-decided schedule, he is actually being a coward and running away from the duties levied upon him. Each of our lives might not have as important a meaning as Arjun's, but yet have a lot of vitality and a different meaning. So if we do not stay alive for fulfilling that meaning, then we shall never be bestowed upon with salvation. 

 Suppose that our mother has given us a handmade gift with infinite love embedded into it. So what would we do? We would definitely put it in a safe place where it won't get damaged, or use it carefully. But what if we accept it, and when our mind urges, break it into pieces or tear it up? If mother comes to know of our deed, how much shall she be hurt and sorrowed? Wouldn't it be a critically punishable crime on our part?

 Well, our mother is the Creator and the beautiful gift is our boon of life. If we end it up, without his will, then that would hurt him much more than anything. And he might not forgive us for that. According to nature, everything must go on in a rhythmic cycle. Life and death are the part of the cycle of nature. If we make our move on our will, we would be guilty of the crime of breaking up the law of nature.

 But the very defect of the matter is that people cannot abstain from such acts at times because circumstances force them to do so. The excuse verbalized by their last lip movements include severe depression due to the loss of hold upon the happenings in life.

The loss of someone's life is the most afflicting juncture of life. So if one feels to end up life, one must first think of the consequences. How can a suicide affect the lives of the dear ones of the person ending life. No circumstance could weigh more than the grief that some others would have to bear because of the one committing suicide.

 A talk to a friend of a person who committed a suicide had certain words that showcased a very high order of melancholy. The words of a friend were such that one could not dare to imagine the condition of the family of the person who called upon death.

At times it happens with each one of us that the agenda of sorrows and plights stand at our doors like unwelcome guests. No guest could live in our houses for the entire life. We don't leave our houses when such unwanted guest arrives. We simply wait for the guest to wave off. And there's definitely a moment when the unwelcome person bid us a 'bye'.

 Similarly, in life, we must wait for that moment and keeping our hope firm, tackle the difficulties. Any situation is a defiance to our very existence. It is the test of our ability. Just like an education system, the system of life has an examination culture. God examines our patience, determination and strength by staking challenges onto us. If we fail and quit this hall of examination, then our condition would be even worse than university dropouts, because dropouts of life are debarred from heaven, according to the Holy books of almost all the religions.

If we feel that the toughest challenge has been bestowed upon us, then instead of trying to google suicidal ways, we must feel the pride of being tagged  the most intelligent and eligible student of life. As the most intelligent student is always given the hardest of questions.

If we meet someone speaking bulks of depressed words and talking of ending her life, then at that very moment our duty must shift onto elucidating the person the importance of life.

 We don't feel lucky to be given human life. But actually, that is a point to feel good about. The lives of animals are full of hardships. So, if we have been endowed with a human life, then we are among the very few lucky souls. We are among the few crores in the infinite world of living beings, stretching from microbes to the multicellulars. Can there be any more a stronger reason for us wanting to end up our life than the reason of being born with as good a fate?

 We have developed a tendency of crying over simply nothing. And that is but human nature. Even on our first day we have cried like anything. We expect too much from life and when a part of our expectation turn away, we feel depressed. This happens when we live life superficially. We all have never known ourselves. Our insight about life is attaining material pleasures. In the contest to improve reputation and influence others, we forget the true meaning of our life. The truth lies within us and self realization is the only way life would confide the clandestine to us.

The soul is the ultimate truth and that it is never affected by minor fluctuations of life. We befit our soul only when we believe in the power of ourselves. Deep within us, there's a chamber that leads to the gateway of power. This power must be realized during the plights and the soul will confide a way that will help fight the exigencies.

But what we do is, during difficulties, we simply lament over circumstances, instead of trying to overcome the conditions or trying to find the solution.

Suppose here's a math problem:

 A girl goes to buy 10 oranges. She had Rs. 60 in her pocket. Each orange costed Rs.7. Then how much money will she fall short of and would have to borrow from a friend whom she had already lended Rs. 20. What will be the final amount left as a debt? And who would be in debt?

Considering the steps:

Firstly we would calculate the total cost of 10 oranges. Then we would subtract the total amount the girl has from the total cost of all oranges. Then falling short of Rs 10 the girl will borrow them from a friend. Finally, her friend would be in a debt (Rs. 10 debt).We get the answer once we realize the inner concept of solving such problems.

  But if we compare the scenario with real life, then this Rs 10 condition could be compared with some other real life problem. Suppose we are falling short of Rs. 10 like the girl in the problem, we simply close up the doors for solutions. We forget how much more we need to pay. We forget all the other further conditions and start thinking of how that falling short of ten rupees would affect us, We feel that we would now be barred from buying oranges (though only one), then we think that so we would not be able to make the orange juice. And as orange juice is a good health and energy supplement, so without it, our health and ability to do work will be affected. We then think that if we cannot work, how can we earn a livelihood?

Well, that is how we create circumstances for our own. Instead of thinking of the solutions, we peep more and more into the problems. And that's what leads absurd thoughts of ending life, The above scenario might seem a mere exaggeration, but just because it is a simple condition, the circumstances seem unthinkable. But when it comes to complex problems of life, we actually do exaggerate circumstances.

And the solution hides behind!

Suppose a child is overburdened with studies, he starts contemplating, "I will not be able to cope up with studies. I will fail. The society would make fun of me. My parents would be embarrassed. I cannot face it all. I must die". The pupil concentrates on problems instead of solutions. If he peeps into the soul, he would find the power within himself to improve and tackle all the burdens of studying and would end up scoring good.

 So whenever a person analyses conditions, the other way out, the wrong way, the circumstances would over-weigh the vitality of life.

 So, whenever (it would definitely feel so sometime) anyone of us feels the same, we must try to meditate or in any other way try to connect to ourselves, talk our heart out with the inner "us". If that doesn't work out we could always talk to a friend or a relative. Even the dumbest person would be able to influence our motives of suicide.

 Also, we must always be ready to shed our words of inspiration to a person who has made up the mind to die. We would then we performing one of the holiest and most pious errands. We would be saving a life!

 So, we must learn the importance of life. Try understanding ourselves. Try to focus on solutions. Feel good for minutest of things. Procure the true meaning of life. Walk on the path of self realization or enlightenment. And then there would be wonders, the problems confronting us would be repulsed like the two like poles, and life would be enchanting and much much more adorable!

Love

 God created the humans on Earth. He, in a demiurgic manner, layered each organ of our body with each feelings and functions. And to the heart did he give the most tedious job of pumping blood, such that he made it the organ of life. In the different realms of the heart he daintily stuffed different feelings. This depicted the fact that as heart functioned until death, so he wanted a person to be emotionless only when the heart beat impediments or when a person dies.

 So, we humans are accompanied by sentiments in every walk of life. Without emotions we would become like lifeless mass of perfectly  manufactured physique. So God thought to stuff us with several emotions. Firstly, he created the positive emotions. But then, as he was brushing it up, he created negative emotions, so as to emphasize the importance of positive feelings. But later, he thought that it would be difficult to bind the humans with each other without a certain feeling because miseries would only lead to violence and extinction of the race. So, then God created the most beautiful and binding emotion, and maybe, the homo sapiens baptized it as- love.
 Actually, love is that gluing feeling created by God that attaches the hearts. The way resonant bodies acquire same amplitude, similarly, when the frequency of brain waves and heart waves of two people synchronize, a kind of bonding is formed between them and the feeling of love does its work. That is why love creates filaments of bonding between any two people in the firmament who don't seem to be similar by blood, but their frequencies match.
 The way every new creation gets gradually garnished by unwanted ailments, even the true meaning and sense of love has been being topped by layers of vulgarity and wrong comprehensions. Whenever love comes to mind, the physical attraction is the first thing that we visualize and due to that, the true sense of love is being killed. When being racy comes first to the mind, that isn't love.
 The word love is being thought to be a kind of obnoxious and vulgar. When we read the word-love, do we first think of connate love towards our parents? No, we simply think of a valentine's love. The kind of love to be approved by cupid- the God of love. The kind of love that is actually infatuation.
So to connote, the true meaning of love has vanished.
 God created that pious and sacred emotion of bondage which has been wrongly interpreted these days. Moreover, this word, besides being vulgar, has become a trend among youngsters. An "I love you", and the opposite gender listener, becomes completely theirs. Whether the heart attaches or not, the brain gets attracted by a person, and the proposal creeps in.
 Actually the word love has a deep philosophy underneath it. Love isn't just a single feeling. The way, the pituitary gland is the master gland, love is the master emotion. Contemporary with love arises satisfaction, attraction, happiness, joy and its synonymous feelings. We human beings are addicted to comfort, shelter and protection. And love provides the same shelter, comfort and protection. So love doesn't arise from the physical feelings, only attraction can arise in such a manner. And once love arises, if it is an opposite gender person, then another kind of love ushers and the hormones create the physical feeling. But this new kind of love is actually an offspring of the first kind of love,i.e., the affectionate love. So sexual love arises only from affectionate love. If the physical love arises first instead of affectionate love, then it is actually not love, but it is infatuation or attraction. This deep meaning of love has been misinterpreted and the word "love" has been undignified.
 A coffee table talk with teenagers have brought about the only physical meaning of love. I asked one of them that what according to him, was actually the true meaning of the word love. The explanation went on for quite many sips. He said, "Love is being loyal to my dearest girlfriend. Love is having blind faith upon my girlfriend. Love is touching no one (a girl) other than my girlfriend with vivid intentions. My girlfriend has become a habit for me, just like rum becomes an addiction, similarly, my love, my girlfriend has become a necessity for me ( to quote his words) - wo mera nasha ban gayi hai. " Well, maybe, he was right in his part, I didn't use the illicit polygraph test on him to find out whether he truly loved his girlfriend but there was something critical that I noticed.

 I had never mentioned about love towards his girlfriend. I mean, I had simply asked him what love was. He did not even utter a single word relating to the other forms of love. I mean motherly affection meant nothing to him. I don't tend to criticize anyone who helped me to hunt for the meaning of love but it means that the smell that I had perceived of the vanishing vapours of the true meaning of the sacred emotion was not an illusion.
 So, altogether love is a complicated feeling that has been given a simple name by the English lexicographers. There would have been a thousand million google searches this Valentines Week on the topics like "How to love" or "Whom to love" or "How to show love" or "What to gift to impress a lover", but I bet, not even a thousand searches would have been for questing the meaning of the word "love".
 The couples boast of that they could elucidate to anyone, the meaning of love. The coffee table talk was for the same purpose. I wanted an explanation of the feeling of love. But the results really left me startled. The parental love is as though not at all love for the young adults. They just simply lived, to dress up to impress the already impressed and the unimpressed ones.
 Every hunt must have a connotation, and my personal views of true love is that of course love is an attachment of hearts and not the brains, but when we love a person, we do not try to keep trying to win over the person's heart. the way teens of today, dress up and spend thousands extravagantly to impose a good impression upon the lover is quite ridiculous according to me. I would never hesitate to stroll around in front of my father in my night suit with undone and uncombed hair. I would not think before making a foolish comment in my brother's presence. I would not worry if anyone of them gets infuriated with me. I would be sure that their heart waves are never going to change and so will mine. So the love is never to increase. The glues sticky enough to tie my minutest atom with my family. I would not be ashamed to show my weaknesses to my grandma, or my absurd jokes would always keep irritating my grandpa. I have been falling down in their presence, and have been balancing myself in their presence. In my ups and downs, they have never left me alone. I would never bring chocolates in order to win over anyone of them. I know that god destined us to stay together and so did he attach us and grouted us. Then why not being the true "me" in front of them. So, I feel, this is true love.

Howsoever I look, my mom loves me.
Because that is what true love is.

 One doesn't need to even verbalize those "I love yous" in order to express one's feeling to a true lover again and again. The greeting cards and flowers are all rubbish. The materialistic attractions encourage such acts. I don't blame teenagers because their hormones indirectly are the cause of the attractions that have been misinterpreted in most cases as love. But it is a kind of genuine point that they must think over, before getting into a relationship that are they meant for each other...Is their love only physical love or the affectionate love. Have they always been trying to impress each other or have been in their ground state in front of their lover.
 There's a need for the couples to understand that other forms of love do exist and that the true and sacred emotion of bondage needs to be preserved. Just take a step back and set off for the voyage to search for the true feeling of love in the seas of emotions created by God. Actually, love is incomprehensible. The only way to define love is the compassion and affection towards a person whose company feels comfortable, shame- free, joyous, amiable and amicable. There's no need to ogle at our mother. So love isn't a lecherous feeling, it is the voice of our heart.
 So, this Valentine's  Day, the best gift to anyone could be elucidation of the true meaning of the pious and sacred emotion - love.

"Love is: drowning,

 In the ocean of affection.

 Love does neither see

 The form nor complexion.

 It sees not, one's extravagance

 And one's biz.

 An intimate attachment,

 Love truly is."

  It is an humble plead to each human to not to crumble the importance and purity of the intelligently inscribed emotion in the realms of our heart. Love is not only meant for the peace of mind. But love is meant for the peace of our souls. And if our your soul rests when we are with someone, then it means we love that "someone". Peace of the soul is a litmus test for intimate love.